How friendships can change overnight
Over the years I have had many people come into my life and befriend me. I'm not your typical friend. I can’t talk to you every day. I'm not going to hang out every day either. Does that make me a bad friend? I feel like in my life currently I have entered a state of contentment in a way that I am content alone. A lot of things are handled better when there are not so many people involved.
Anyhow, last year after an altercation with my stepdad I was homeless jumping from house to house, Pillar to post if you get what I mean. So I moved in with a friend of mine temporarily. So grateful to her to let me stay with her to this day. I don't know where I would be or if I would be here if it wasn’t for her. She truly helped my mental state in the chaos that was my life at the time.
Now with that being said I knew better than to stay with a close friend I had learned my lesson years ago but I had to do what I needed to at least have a bed to lay on. Do you all know the saying “Never move in with a friend if you still want to be friends” that’s exactly what this was. As grateful as I am for them allowing me to be there, it was rough. When someone knows everything about your life is hard to cope with when you are already going through it. You don’t want to talk all the time.
Any chance I got to take a break or go out of town I took it whether with my man or without him. Well, my friend became consumed for lack of a better word with my life and my situation. They wanted to know every detail and be a part of every detail. Little did I know that soon this would come back and bite me.
One day I received a phone call from them and I was involved in a situation with them and their man. Now I am definitely the friend that will tell you about yourself when it comes to you acting foolish and this was that scenario. I had told her many times to leave him be. Stop communicating with him because they are not good for you, your mental health is more important.
She wasn’t having it so eventually I stopped giving my opinion and let her learn for herself. The day I received that phone call our friendship shifted. I was brought up in conversation knowing I had nothing to do with their relationship and the way it was. As I am on the phone I am hearing things from her man about my personal life. I received backlash from my friend when I told her I wanted no part in the conversation anymore. She began to tell me so many hurtful things bringing up personal details of my life saying unforgivable below the belt.
No matter how angry you get there are boundaries in every type of relationship. And all of mine were broken, shattered And crossed. I wasn’t even angry after I knew that in the moment our friendship would never be the same. I couldn’t cry. I couldn’t yell, I couldn’t do anything but be silent. People close to us cause a lot of harm and damage. People in whom we have faith and care about.
